Defining Domestic Violence

Physical abuse is not the only type of domestic violence. In many cases it is the emotional abuse that goes unreported – and often unrecognized. While the effects can be equally devastating, many victims do not know where to turn for help or who to trust. Fortunately, there is legal help for victims of physical, sexual or mental abuse. The key is to recognize the signs of domestic violence and take the necessary steps to break the cycle.

Domestic violence can be defined as physical abuse, sexual abuse or emotional abuse, with the intention of exercising control over another individual. Its effects are prevalent in all types of relationships across all social, economic, religious and ethnic groups - between those who are married or even divorced; those in romantic relationships who may or may not share a home; among friends; within the workplace and beyond.

You Don’t Have to Suffer Abuse in Silence

Anyone may be a victim of domestic violence, but the majority of those who suffer are women. A sad statistic is that while mental and emotional abuse is more common, many women will not report it simply because their attacker did not make physical contact or cause any personal injury. While the outward signs of physical abuse may disappear with time, mental abuse leaves emotional scars that can last a lifetime. If a partner inflicts abuse that leaves lingering doubts and fears, whether or not there is personal injury, you may be a victim of domestic violence.

It is common for many victims to feel as if the abuse may be their fault, as frequently men who abuse their partners make them feel responsible by blaming their actions on situations, hoping to excuse domestic violence by saying their spouses provoke them. The bottom line is that an aggressor’s violent behavior is never justified.

Law Enforcement Can Provide the Help You Need

Many believe that if they call the police, they may have repercussions, like being turned in to Immigration and Naturalization Services. The bottom line is that domestic violence is a crime. It is against the law to assault another person and the police should not turn you in if you have called to report a domestic violence case. Do not underestimate the importance of calling the police, as they will:

• Arrest the abuser if they feel a crime has been committed
• Help you get to a safe place that allows you to escape the violence
• Help you receive emergency treatment if physical injuries are involved
• Find out where you can get further help
• Assist in retrieving any necessary belongings from your home, like clothing or important medicines

Taking Legal Measures When Facing Domestic Violence

If you are a victim, you can file charges against the abuser, as well as file for protective order. It is important to know that you do not have to be a permanent U.S. Citizen to obtain a restraining order. For a restraining order to be effective, you have to be willing to contact the police so that they can apply the order and enforce it. Generally, you can file for a restraining order at your county court, at counseling centers, legal service offices and some police stations. In most cases, the court won’t ask questions regarding your legal status when requesting a restraining order.

Leaving Home if There is a Threat of Danger or Further Violence

If you are in danger, it is best to leave your home and go to a safe haven – the home of a friend or family member or a domestic violence shelter. There are shelters around the Tampa Bay area and across the country that are typically free of charge and will provide information about other helpful services available in your community.

When it is Necessary to Consult an Immigration Attorney

You should speak to an attorney before contacting the Department of Immigration – your consultation will always be confidential. There are always ways to consult a lawyer when cost is a concern. If you cannot afford to pay for an attorney, you may be eligible for free or reduced-cost legal services.

Domestic Violence Counseling Programs for Offenders

There are many programs that compel abusers to take responsibility for their violent behavior. Not all programs are the same, but many force the aggressor to examine his behavior; understand that only he is responsible for his acts; see how his behavior destroys his family; and encourage him that he can change if he wishes to do so. While it is important to realize that there are no guarantees the physical abuse will stop, a counseling program will provide abusers helpful information and guide them to improve the situation for himself and his partner.

Marriage Counseling in Situations of Domestic Abuse

Organizations in Tampa and across the U.S. that help victims of domestic violence advise women not to attend family counseling or mediation programs, as they may not be safe. When your abuser speaks about the domestic violence in your presence, it may bring difficult feelings to the surface and give him room to point blame or accuse you of saying something that provoked him to abuse you.

Organizations in Tampa for Victims of Domestic Abuse and Their Families

The following are resources in the Tampa Bay area which offer guidance and services to those who are victims of domestic violence:

Spring of Tampa Bay 24 Hour Crisis Hotline/Emergency Shelter
(813) 247-7233
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www.thespring.org

Crisis Center of Tampa Bay, Inc.
(813) 964-1964
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www.crisiscenter.com

Mary & Martha House
(813) 641-7027
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www.maryandmarthahouse.org

Florida Statewide Crisis Line
(800) 500-1119